React to anger-provoking situations calmly
Rebuild Loving Relationships
Strengthening Relationships Through Better Communication
Couples often experience a breakdown of communication, which causes a fight or flight reaction. These become repetitive cycles of self-destructive behaviour, where anger expressed spins out of control. A loss of emotional closeness, trust and physical intimacy can follow leading to crises in the relationship, affairs or the threat of divorce.
As a BACP accredited psychotherapist and certified Imago relationship therapist with over 15 years of experience, I specialize in helping couples strengthen their relationship.
Together we explore what you need, why there is disconnection and how you can achieve the relationship you want. A key to this is to learn communication tools to build open and calm communication, to understand each other, resolve conflict and meet each other’s needs. We also focus on building greater appreciation and care to reignite love and connection in the relationship.
My Approach
Transform Your Relationship In Three Steps
Step 1
Gain Awareness
Understanding the root cause of your disconnection by accessing the history of the relationship and communication style. One common issue is the ‘Hailstorm and Turtle’ dynamic . The ‘hailstorm’ person criticizes the other – throwing hailstones at them. The other acts like a turtle, pulling away and going into their shell. The hailstorm person then thinks – I am not getting my point across, so they throw more and larger hails stones – which make the turtle withdraw even more. Exploring past unresolved hurts that trigger highly emotional reactions is also very important.
Step 2
Improve Communication and Resolve Conflicts
Learn skills to communicate calmly and openly to resolve problems, One important technique is known as ,active listening, in which each person paraphrases the other’s opinion before expressing their own. Opinions are also expressed by using “I” statements rather than with accusatory statements that begin with “you.
Step 3
Rekindle Love and Intimacy
We focus on rebuilding closeness through small but meaningful act of giving. Dr Gary Chapman explains that there are five ‘love languages’, five ways in which we express love. These are, Gift Giving, Quality Time, Physical Touch, Acts of Service and Words of Appreciation. Understanding and prioritizing each other’s love language reignites care and connection
I am a BACP accredited psychotherapist and a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist. My approach is integrative as I draw from a variety of disciplines. This allows me to create an individual approach to help you move forward to create positive and lasting change
I also counsel on a wide range of other issues including depression, low self-esteem, assertiveness, bereavement, and work-related problems.
Book A Free Initial 20 Minutes Phone or Zoom Consultation.
What clients say
“We came to see Aryeh as a married couple having hit what felt at the time like rock bottom it was amazing to get to a point whereby we felt incredibly close again and reconnected on a deeper level than before.”
“We have spent 12 years at war repeating the same horrible patterns and going in miserable battle cycles. Aryeh has counselled us out of trouble into a happier and more harmonious place in our marriage.”
“I had little hope marriage counselling would help but within a few sessions the surprising effectiveness of Aryeh’s techniques and guidance had improved our relationship remarkably.”
“With Aryeh’s guidance we learned a range of tools that got us right back on track. In fact, after a few sessions we had turned things around so much that we set a date for our wedding and are now happily married”
How it works
Online Counselling
I provide counselling on Zoom, WhatsApp, and by phone which provides the flexibility for couples to join if they are in different locations
The first step
I offer a free 20 minute consultation to answer any questions or to see if it’s a good fit. Alternatively, you may want to book an initial appointment, which lasts 50 minutes. You can contact me by phone on +44 7727 697 181 or by email at aryeh.sampson@gmail.com.
Initial Appointment
The initial appointment is an opportunity to talk freely about what you are seeking from counselling and how I can be of help. There’s no obligation to continue if you don’t feel it’s for you. If you decide to continue we will set a mutually convenient time for your regular sessions.
Ongoing Sessions
I offer daytime and evening weekday sessions until 9pm GMT, and Sunday morning sessions. All sessions are 50 minutes long. Sessions cancelled within 72 hours of the scheduled meeting time are payable in full. I’m a registered provider with Bupa, Cigna, AXA, WPA, Vitality, and Aviva
Data Privacy
All personal information is managed in compliance with GDPR.
FOR SOLUTIONS TO MARRIAGE & COUPLES ISSUES
For more information view 5 Steps for Enhancing Marriage