Marriage & Couples Counselling
Rebuilding Love & Connection: Overcoming Relationship Challenges
Transform Conflict into Closeness with Certified Imago Relationship Therapy
Couples often experience a breakdown of communication, which causes a fight or flight reaction. These may become repetitive cycles of self-destructive behaviour, where anger expressed spins out of control. A loss of emotional closeness, trust and physical intimacy follows, which can lead to crises in the relationship, affairs and the threat of divorce.
As a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist I work with individuals and couples to understand the causes of their difficulties and rebuild love and connection in their relationships.
Together we explore what you need, why there is disconnection and how you can achieve the relationship you want. A key to this is building open and calm communication in order to understand each other, resolve conflict and meet each other’s needs. We also focus on building greater appreciation, care and fun in order to reignite love and connection in the relationship.
Book A Free Initial 20 Minutes Phone or Zoom Consultation.
Introduction to Marriage & Couples Counselling
Solutions for Marriage & Couples Issues
Solutions for Marriage & Couples Issues
A Three-Step Approach to ReBuild your Relationship
Step 1
Gain Awareness
Understanding the root cause of the disconnection by accessing the history of the relationship and communication styles is the first step . One common issue is the ‘Hailstorm and Turtle’ dynamic . The ‘hailstorm’ person criticizes the other – throwing hailstones at them. The other acts like a turtle, pulling away and going into their shell. The hailstorm person then thinks – I am not getting my point across, so they throw more and larger hails stones – which make the turtle withdraw even more. Exploring past unresolved hurts that trigger highly emotional reactions is also very important.
Step 2
Improve Communication and Resolve Conflicts
Learn skills to communicate calmly and openly to resolve problems, One important technique is known as ,active listening, in which each person paraphrases the other’s opinion before expressing their own. Opinions are also expressed by using “I” statements rather than with accusatory statements that begin with “you.
Step 3
Rekindle Love and Intimacy
We focus on rebuilding closeness through small but meaningful act of giving. Dr Gary Chapman explains that there are five ‘love languages’, five ways in which we express love. These are, Gift Giving, Quality Time, Physical Touch, Acts of Service and Words of Appreciation. Understanding and prioritizing each other’s love language reignites care and connection
What clients say
“You have helped us enormously to move past our problems and find a better way to communicate. We are both very grateful for all your help.”
” We were struggling after lockdown, but with Aryeh’s guidance we learned a range of tools that got us right back on track. In fact after a few sessions we had turned things around so much that we set a date for our wedding and are now happily married. “
” When we approached Aryeh our marriage had been very unsatisfactory for a long time and I had little hope marriage counselling would help but within a few sessions the surprising effectiveness of Aryeh’s techniques and guidance had improved our relationship remarkably. “
” We came to see Aryeh as a married couple who had lost their way in communicating with one another most essentially in empathy. Having hit what felt at the time like rock bottom it was amazing to get to a point whereby we felt incredibly close again and reconnected on a deeper level than before. “
” Aryeh is an exceptionally skilled and knowledgeable clinician with an extensive set of skills and techniques at his disposal.. We have spent 12 years at war repeating the same horrible patterns and going in miserable battle cycles. After two failed attempts at marriage counselling, this was our last hope. Aryeh has counselled us out of trouble into a happier and more harmonious place in our marriage. “
How it works
Face to Face and Online counselling
I offer face to face, online, video-call and phone counselling. I use Zoom, Skype and WhatsApp.
Taking the first step
If you would like to make an appointment you can contact me by phone on 07727697181 or by email aryeh.sampson@gmail.com. I also offer a free 15 minute phone consultation if you have any questions or would like to speak at greater length
Initial Meeting
The initial meeting is an opportunity to talk freely about what you are seeking from counselling, how I can help, and to answer any questions you may have. There’s no obligation to continue if you don’t feel it’s for you. If you decide to continue we will set a time for your regular weekly sessions at a mutually convenient time.
Session Times
I offer daytime and evening sessions during the week and Sunday mornings.
Insurance and Cancellation Policy
I am a registered counsellor with Bupa, Cigna, Axa, WPA, Vitality and Aviva. All sessions are 50 minutes long. Sessions cancelled within 72 hours of the scheduled meeting time are payable in full.
Data
I am ICO registered and all personal data is held in compliance with General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR).
Couple Intensive Sessions
To accelerate the growth process I also offer Couple Intensive Sessions, as an alternative to weekly sessions . These are morning sessions (3-4 hours) or a day session (6-7 hours).
In these you will gain:
• Tools for healthy communication
• Conflict resolution strategies
• Understanding each other more deeply
• Methods of creating greater love and closeness
For more information about these contact me directly by phone on 07727 697 181 or by email aryeh.sampson@gmail.com